Determined now as I move forward..

[Ready2Change]

With the legal out of the way:

And the emotional/moral:

tackle each separately:

1) Splitting assess-Assinging value - equalize

2) Parenting plan

3) Future financial obligations


I always advise for 50/50 parenting split unless there are real issues. Sounds like you have real concerns. Deal with that after dealing with "Stuff".



House : One person values, other person decides if they want to keep it for that value.
401K's ect - they have value. help balance out value of house.

Do not quibble over little things.


H"W, I believe this item is worth X. Do you want it for that value or should I take it for that value."

or

"We disagree about the value of item X. Since you believe it is worth $yyy, you can have it for that value"


One person splits the cookie, the other picks.