She's not sure she can trust me and that I'll just go back to my emotional abandonment and leave her vulnerable again.
Oh wow. Your poor wife, she's sooooo afraid she can't trust you again. The same woman who secretly engaged in a 2 year affair with a married man. Yeah. The things that come out of their mouths are just astounding sometimes. I wouldn't be too sympathetic to her pleas. Just work on detachment and getting out and GAL'ing and leave her to contemplate the mess she is making.
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We went to MC this weekend and it was clear she isn't ready to reconcile. She doesn't feel she's ready to talk about it, and really would rather not even have to. She even said that she just wants to close the book on this chapter of our life an move on. I know that without a major transformation in our MR, it will just be a matter of time before she is back with him or with the next co worker that takes a fancy to her.
Yes you are likely right about that. I would suggest dropping MC for now, it's clearly not having an impact on her and is probably just making things worse.
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In spite of it all, I still do love my wife and don't want to drag my family through a divorce if it can be avoided. But i'm also certain I'm not interested in just sweeping it under the rug and moving forward with my head down.
Good. Because ignoring it is only inviting it to happen again.
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So, I'll get back to GAL and living my life. As I prove that I can be OK independent of her, maybe she'll snap out of it and start to realize what she is going to lose.
Great plan! And if you do it right, at some point you'll quit worrying about her snapping out of it because you'll be too busy being awesome.
