[AnotherStander]

I suspect that my H is in a full-blown midlife crisis.

It sure sounds like it. If he is then prepare for a long journey! Men in MLC can do absolutely crazy stuff, it's not at all uncommon for them to make large, extravagant purchases that they can't even come close to affording. I remember someone here posting years ago about finding out their H had chartered a yacht to take his new young arm-candy GF on a private cruise through foreign countries. It was incredibly expensive, but a man firmly in the grip of MLC doesn't concern himself with such trivialities as how to pay for something. You might want to talk to a L to take measures to protect yourself financially.

Then a couple of months ago he had to go out of town for work. A 2-week work trip turned into a 6-week work trip. While away his work trip seemed more like a paid vacation rather than work.

Was it even work-related at all? This is the kind of stuff I'm talking about! He may have just gone off on a vacation with his GF and told you it was a work trip.

Now here is the kicker...he’s told me all the above but still wants to have sex with me. Still tells me he loves me every day. Says he misses me (we are sleeping in separate rooms) and still wants to touch all over me.

This is classic cake-eating. He wants to have his fling and hang onto a bit of married life as well. You were right to shut that down. Men in MLC have to hit rock bottom much like a drug addict or alcoholic. As long as you try to appease him he will never hit bottom. You've got to stick with a tough-love approach as you have been. It is the only way. I'm not saying to be rude/ cold/ indifferent, but you've got to be firm and unmoving. Don't join his pity parties. Don't be his shoulder to cry on.

He went to go visit my daughter at college yesterday and she asked him was he sure he wanted a divorce and he told her yes. He’s never communicated that to me. Just last night while he was begging, he said I haven’t asked you for a divorce yet. Like Hugh? This is so weird. Has anyone here ever been through this? My husband is constantly giving me mixed signals and it’s nuts.

Yes nearly everyone. Some WAS's are more extreme than others but we've all seen some form of the mixed signals thrown at us. They are confused and in turmoil. They are on a journey only they can make, and the best you can do is get out of the way. You can't help him on the journey.

Good luck and keep posting!