OK, so I'm not going to wish him a happy birthday?
No, don't wish him a happy birthday. He has betrayed you, Hope. He has dishonored your MR. Stop pretending that you have a relationship and expecting him to respond normally. You must stop contacting him. You don't want a man who is with you b/c he is so guilt ridden he has no other choice. You are worth much more and want to mean more to a man than just his guilty conscious or obligation.
Here's what you do. You get out that calendar and start filling up those blank spaces with fun activities that require you to get out of the house. Challenge yourself by doing things or going to new places. Treat yourself well. Before bedtime, you can read some self esteem building books for women. When you get up in the mornings, you put on some music that gets your blood stirring. Listen to motivational talks on You Tube. Keep feeding your soul. Don't look to him to do it. You are responsible for your own happiness.
Do you have girl friends that are not connected to your H in any way? Are they supportive? Can you have fun with them? Then make arrangements to have them over, or take them out...….whatever. You are going to fill your time up until you won't be crying after that sorry man. You are the prize, sweetheart...….not him. Now, start living as though you believe it.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
