Familiar path, new approach (pain18 DB VII)

[sandi2]

I am so thrilled to hear you are attending a NG support group!

Question for you all: When W is so involved with OM's friends and children, how should I handle it? Is she just that deep into her own fog? I know it's not good at all, but hopes for a happy ending dwindle each day. This would just be another pin that gets knocked down.

It's like whenever two people fall in love and she wants his family and friends to accept her. She will show more attention toward his kids than her own, just to score brownie points. Yes, it's sickening. When the affair ends, his friends and family will fall by the wayside and they all will forget her.

She said something along the lines of "well, I'd better make myself scarce." I shrugged my shoulders and basically told she can do what she needs to do. So she went into her room to pack. I left the house after I said goodbye to my D4.

That was tough, but I am so happy that I did not give in like I used to.

You are correct. It's tough. However, you are becoming better equipped. You are doing a great job in taking steps to become the man you want to be, and the type of man you want your daughter to marry some day. You are actually doing better than many newcomers, b/c you have put legs to your goals. In other words, they aren't just wishful ideas floating around in your head. You are out there changing into the man you were designed to be.