Determined now as I move forward..

[Dtrmned]

Really looking for feedback from the Veterans out there!

We are moving into the D arena. We are trying to agree and file.

I am so done at the moment, but we exchanged thoughts on what we wanted and we are SO far apart on some.

I think we are about 75% of the way there, but that is mostly just kid stuff and easy stuff.

She is asking for a ton more than I wouldn't agree to unless forced to by a judge.

We are talking this evening to see if we can come to a solution.

Questions:

1-How far do I actually state what I know and how this could affect a judge/custody/money, etc.?

I know judges don't care about affairs, etc. Just an fyi, I have confirmed 1 that she had that dumped her hard and another one that she has ongoing now but I'm sure it will fizzle the same way. Either way, not my problem.
I am talking about true health issues. W slept 14 hours per day Thu/Fri/Sat/Sun.
Have proof she has been working but she "swears" she doesn't have a job. Yet she secured a new place of residence and is paying rent, utilities,etc.
She admittedly (in writing and recorded) has some major disabilities that could keep her from successfully caring for our children. Again, don't want to bring this up AT ALL!!!!!
Says in correspondence to the management firm that she has 2 jobs AND money in the bank to cover at least a years worth of rent. I've never seen this!

2- Having read stories, situations, etc on here. I know that D is not the end. There is some small hope (ithurts) that somewhere down the road we could R. Is this possible? I will DB through this whole thing. Is this smart? Or should I just throw in the towel and let it ride.

Sandi, if you are out there, please let me know your thoughts. You (and many, many others!) have given me so much insight into the thought process of the WW/WAW. I am looking at a totally different person who used to have values and morals but who is now "justifying" everything they do and "villifying" anything I say/do or don't say or do.

I know I can't "win" as I believe we have both lost. But how do I act through this?

Luckily, I don't think it will be long.

Help please!!!