13 years and two small children

[Hurt213]

Thank you for the words Flysolo,

I actually had no intentions of getting a reaction out of her, by doing this. I am not trying to be cruel or get her to second-guess her choices - I am just fed up with having to look at her underwear, her new dresses, and all her different clothings that she lays out on the bed whenever she decides to go to OM.

For me it is about having a place for me, that is exactly as you described it, just a zone where I can go to, relax, and be me. I feel like im suffocating having to sit in the living room with her in this fake limbo state every night I don't have plans - i'd rather have the option to go be for my self.

I am done with being the nice guy who lets her cake eat (go to OM at night, come back and play family with us). I am and will continue to grow to be a person I like to be, I have dreams for me and my kids, and I will do anything in the world to make them happen. I won't let my thoughts be clouded by her yoyo treatment of me nor will I accept it anymore.

What im saying is basically, that I will threat her with respect, smile and let her talk if she wants - if not, then I will just do me and my kids thing, and slowly but steady go to a better place. I won't be the one engaging in anymore conversations about us, nor will I initiate conversations, but of course I will answer content and happy if the questions are valid. I will not interfere with her life, and I will speak up if she decides to cross my boundaries.


So the advice is not to tell her, why I moved her things out of the master bath/bedroom?

I hope it makes sense.