Thanks DejaVu6 and Yorkie. Been too depressed to post. I know the DBing is supposed to get my mental health back into shape, but really it hasn't helped me nor get my H to contact me. Yes I know GAL, but I do have one. That's the thing. It doesn't stop me from constantly thinking about him. Asked him two weeks ago to see me. He said he'd get back to me, but not a peep yet. His birthday is coming up. Should I send him a happy birthday text? Or stay the course of no contact. I expect he's still having his affair and he's not missing me at all. Countdown to when he can apply for D scares me to death even though it makes no difference to the life I'm living now except I can still call him my H. Also been reading that it's much harder to recover a marriage after D which scares me even more. Still cry a lot but with less intensity now.
The bold is why it's important to incorporate something new into your GAL plan. When you are doing something new and different (and ideally, challenging), your brain has more to think about than when you are operating in your same routine. And a busy brain is less likely to obsess about your situation.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
