Your H is in full pursuit. Just keep doing what you are doing. He made the declaration that is contrary to the integrity of your marriage. He is also displaying behaviours that go with that.
I like that you are working on detachment so consciously. It is a much needed place for you and your healing. Likewise, all the advice, rules, suggestions, right and wrongs, are all for you and your healing - they are not a manipulation nor a way to fix your H or marriage. They do give you the best chance for H to find his way out of his ness. I think you know that, however reenforcement of these ideas i found was good to hear.
DnJ
Yes it痴 hard but it seems to be working. I just got back from doing some shopping and he told me that I look beautiful and that he still wants it. I just laughed and kept it moving. I do pray for him and pray that he finds his way out of the tunnel. However until then, my focus is on my well being and the well being of my children. They are older so they are taking things pretty well. I知 so proud of those little humans. They encourage me and they encourage him also.
I forgot to mention our ages. I missed that question from upthread. I知 42 and he will be 46 in a few months.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
