You need to up your detachment efforts. You can control your thoughts, feelings, and actions. You can’t control his.
If you decide to file that doesn’t have to be the end. I believe Steve has said in many threads even D doesn’t mean the end of a relationship. That’s how I’m approaching my sitch now. I requested to push to complete my D a couple weeks back....and now crickets from my WAW. I’ve only upped my DB efforts since I had one of my life’s true pivot events and I am finally starting to see an impact after 5 months of DB’ing. I still fully expect my D to happen...but I also believe that karma is a real thing and I do see my W flailing. I see a scared little girl who’s now lost under the facade she has fronted since BD. Heck when I had to interact with W earlier this week, she actually made the statement “Your getting everything and I’m getting nothing”...WTH?? I saw right through her logic and attempt to justify the position she has put herself in due to her choices. She’s the one that left, wanted the d, etc al. Yet I’m somehow at fault in her eyes...
I believe you know the answer as to file or not...but you can construe that if you in fact do...it in itself is an action.
You got this!
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
