I would not be surprised if OW is no more and he just doesn’t want to tell you.
My MIL thinks the extra kid time this month is because he is going away for a week and feels guilty. He told me he is going to visit his school friend overseas. I only have his word that this is what he is doing. He could be going away with OW for all I know. When we first got together he was with someone else. He had a months training to do in the states, so I went with him the first two weeks. So, it is not beyond reason that he lying to me. I choose not to think about it though.
DJV and Kiwi - yes, it is maddening that he is so affectionate and caring towards the kids. He even spends 5 minutes hugging our dog when he comes in. Everyone but me gets his attention. It [censored] big time. And yes, I frequently want to hit him. But instead I give him a friendly hello, offer him a cup of tea, and pretend none of it bothers me.
Journaling -
Tonight I had planned to go to a comedy club with some girlfriends. I had even arranged for H to babysit tonight. Unfortunately, all my girlfriends are mums, and due to childcare issues, they have all had to bail. So am stuck admitting to H that my friends have bailed or pretending I am still going out and spending a few hours at one of the mums houses, drinking wine and watching sitcoms on TV.
I think I will go with the latter
Also, and this is weird - I mentioned to his mum that I wanted to look at doing further education in psychology (I have a bachelors in psych and maths) because I wanted to do something that helped people. H asked me about it in the car earlier. I said yes, I wanted to do something that was about more than making money. He looked at me, and with all seriousness said "Don't you have to have empathy for that".
