[quote=Grace21]I have been GAL, I’ve gone out alone a couple of times and he was definitely curious. He wanted to make sure I was wearing my wedding ring and asked me what would I do if a guy approached me. I asked him what would make him think a guy would approach me. His response was come on now, you’re beautiful. So when I say it’s weird, it’s weird. It’s like he’s having a hard time letting go of someone he claims he’s no longer in love with.
This is projection. They think the only reasons to go out socializing without their spouse is to find other people. Which it sounds like he did in Hawaii. My H told me he wouldn't blame me if I wanted to date. He knows that in the 28+ years I've known him I never allowed myself to let another man think I'm open to something more than polite chit chat. He obviously can't say the same.
You will have difficult days ahead. Start your process of detachment and GAL, and each day will become a pinch easier. We are all here for you.
