I agree with everything job has said. Really good adivce. I read it twice myself, she real does know what she is talking about.
I would like to add something.
Originally Posted by Hamburg
my brain tells me I need a drastic move.....like move out of the house, or proceed with the divorce negotiations..... but my heart tells me I cannot.
Stop! As job said, I would not move out, or anything else.
I found that this whole situation, this MLC, is one very dramatic experience. As you find some level ground, and the rollercoaster becomes just level track, boring and calm, we think nothing is happening. It now that everything is happening.
The LBS is addicted to the drama, to the dramatic events. You very accurately hear that your brain is telling you it needs a dramatic move. Yes it “needs” it, your life and situation does not!
It takes a lot of will power and focus to calm one’s own brain. Seeing this is the first real step toward achieving it.
Eventually you will also find your heart will “tell” you it needs a dramatic move. Trust me on this, I didn’t see it coming, you probably won’t either. However, one can work their way through that also.
Stay the course and make it through these “needs” of drama.
Do not run away from something, run towards something.
For now you are not ready to run towards anything, even if you think or feel differently. Give it time, and patience. You will know, without doubt, when you are there and on your correct path. Until then accept the “needs” your brain and heart will be telling you, work through them, choose to defer any big decisions for a while - just until you are absolutely sure. I guarantee you will see thing differently, you may still choose the same action, but your reason will be different.
I hope that helps.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
