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DnJ,

Thank you so much! It’s a very challenging time in deed. However, I’m greatful I’ve found this thread. It really helps to know that I’m not alone in dealing with this...even though I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy.

My H is definitely confused that is obvious. He told me last night that he saw how I looked at him earlier in the day, he said he can tell I still love him. Of course this was while he was trying to get sex. I’m not sure what look he’s talking about. Truth is I do love him, with all my heart. But my love for him isn’t at question here, his love for me is. So thankfully I’ve already read the rules because I didn’t respond with...but I do love you. I just said nothing. He’s also stated he can’t understand how this has become reversed. I asked him what he meant, he said he can’t understand how he ended up chasing after me. I said nothing.

I almost broke last night and went off on him when he said...I want to have sex with you...you are my wife...and you are not fulfilling your wifely duties. Boy I almost blew a gasket. But I laughed and I laughed real hard. He looked confused in the face. I told him he was in no position to tell me about fulfilling wifely duties. I then politely told him to go get in his bed.

So as hard as this is, I’m positive, this is the right approach. That’s why I finally decided to join this forum. I’m also going to therapy and I’ve started working on me. It’s been tough but I’m taking one day at a time. I’ve joined weight watchers and I’m loosing weight. Not for him, for myself. So I can feel better about myself. I’m going to focus on me and my kids. I’m going to fill my free time up with things that make me happy. The holidays are going to be hard but I’m sure I will survive.

Again, thank you all for the warm welcome. I’m so glad to be here.