Yes, I think she is using the house as a guide to her decision making. Our realtor said it prob wont sell until the spring, given the style and price point. As it stands now, if it sold today she would want to move in a new place together. Whether that's true on a few months....who knows.
Other than dressing nicer, I am looking at a new hobby. Golf, shooting lessons, karate. I will start something this week.
We unofficially decided to make each other aware of when and where we are going out. Mostly to keep track of who will pick up kids from school. During the intial divorce phase we would leave unannounced and show up whenever. We dont want to relive this feelings. It may be a general "I'm going shopping" to "I'm going to target, you need anything" . Either way, I do not pry, though it seems she does from time to time.
For 180s, I backed off ILY for a while and slowly introduced them back. Last week, she told me there are certain things she doesn't want to tell me because they would get my Hope's up. She eventually spolled the beans. One of those things is ILY. The other is she thinks it's best to remain a family.
As for counseling, she is doing well in her IC and I have a feeling she will spring it up on me suddenly when she wants to do CC. She has a list of my days off in her purse, so she may have scheduled one already.
