When it comes to the kids stick to " I will not lie to the kids" stop the "it's your decision". It reinforces to her that this is her fault and you are blaming her. Remember in her warped mind this is your fault.
Got it. I will stick to my guns without further justification. No need to go further, like you said she will blame me regardless.
Originally Posted by LH19
No more "there will be no future OW". That is just going to extend your chance at recon. Unfortunately it's most likely going to be when your in a relationship until she turns around and says "holy $hit he's not waiting for me anymore. This is where you should with a smirk say something like "I plan to date many women so I'm not sure I can bring them around my mom".
This one is harder because that is how I feel. Probably should have kept that part to myself, and stuck with more of a mind your own business.
Originally Posted by LH19
Lastly, this one is going to be a little harsh. "Call me if you need anything" WTF? She's out most likely with OM (don't be naive) her friends will cover for her. I know what your thinking, if I just show her how much I care she will see this and change her mind. Actually it works the opposite she looks at it as she is Ding you and you are still working trying to win her approval so that actually lowers your value in her eyes.
The best attitude to have right now is " oh you want to D me and you're going to find someone better then me? Lol good luck with that.
Call me if you need anything is out of habit, but your right that needs to stop. Strong intel says she was not with OM last night just with friends. Friday was another story.... This part of the whole pre-D is just disgusting. She used to have high moral integrity, now she is extremely selfish, now she lies, seeing OM before she is D, before she is even out of the house. If feel like I could get seriously ill or injured tomorrow and she could give two sh!ts. She is basically 180 of the person she used to be. Just disgusting.
Originally Posted by LH19
No more snooping! The money should be locked down and what she's doing is none of your business anymore. Once she's out the real work and detachment begins.
Stay strong my friend!
My money is locked down. I shouldn't have snooped, I failed in this regard.
It's coming down to the wire and I feel like I am slipping up a bit. Thanks for the advice LH.
Last edited by Twofeet; 11/04/1801:49 PM.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
