I am sorry Djv, the thought of D is so painful, but maybe sometimes we have to go there and think that thought. It might happen, or it might not, but we have to be prepared for the worst. My H ha mentioned D a couple of times, because he could not really find women, who were willing to date a married man. What nerve to tell me that. And although he made it perfectly clear I am still clinging to the hope that he will miss me, once he has moved out and will change his mind, and I would still take him back. but if I am truly honest to myself, I don’t think he will. I too am more worried about the future now. Things like health insurance or retirement money were never on my mind until our separation. But we will get there step by step. Our lives did not just revolve around our husbands, there are other things in our life, that are important to us, our kids, our families, our jobs, our friends. We still have all of these. So we have to focus on the good things that are still there and enjoy them.
