When it comes to the kids stick to " I will not lie to the kids" stop the "it's your decision". It reinforces to her that this is her fault and you are blaming her. Remember in her warped mind this is your fault.
No more "there will be no future OW". That is just going to extend your chance at recon. Unfortunately it's most likely going to be when your in a relationship until she turns around and says "holy $hit he's not waiting for me anymore. This is where you should with a smirk say something like "I plan to date many women so I'm not sure I can bring them around my mom".
Lastly, this one is going to be a little harsh. "Call me if you need anything" WTF? She's out most likely with OM (don't be naive) her friends will cover for her. I know what your thinking, if I just show her how much I care she will see this and change her mind. Actually it works the opposite she looks at it as she is Ding you and you are still working trying to win her approval so that actually lowers your value in her eyes.
The best attitude to have right now is " oh you want to D me and you're going to find someone better then me? Lol good luck with that.
No more snooping! The money should be locked down and what she's doing is none of your business anymore. Once she's out the real work and detachment begins.
