For the last seven years we have had Hs family over for Christmas. We have the largest house, my family is on the other side of the world and, never having really celebrated Christmas growing up, I love having everyone around for Christmas. To me, it is what family is all about. I am not naive enough to think it will continue if we get D but I will crozs that bridge if I get to it.
I decided to host again this year and I am planning a NYE party (first in 12 years). H is welcome to join. He will be there Christmas but will prob have plans NYE.
I want him to join us but I no longer seek his permission re our family plans nor do I expect him to join us for them. If he doesnt join or if he is a miserable sh!t the entire time then that's on him.
So, guess am trying to say the same thing as Yorkie. DJV Spend Christmas the way YOU want to spend it. Dont worry about what your H is doing. Kiwi if you think seeing your parents Christmas will help you heal, then do it.
