I am so sorry that you had the conversation with his daughter. When H and I had that conversation a few weeks ago, it hurt like hell. But he has not mentioned it since. I think they are both so confused and so racked with guilt that sometimes D seems the easy way out. Stay the course. If he sure he wanted to D, then you would have the paperwork.
Let me ask you this, since you found out about his secret, how many times have you just wanted to give up?. How many times have you said to someone you trust "things can't keep going on like this".
I know I said to someone recently that I wasn't sure if I wanted H back. Which isn't true. I was just trying to appear strong.
We should not mind read, but I know my H. His friends would know he has been dating. His friends like me. They would think that keeping me hanging is a [censored] move. So, I have no doubt that he has probably had conversations with people where he says "I think we will end up D'g". He does it so that people don't think he is a [censored]. He doesn't say it to me because he still doesn't know what he wants.
Plan B, definitely, but being Plan B doesn't mean sitting around on my [censored] waiting for him to pick me. It means giving him the space to work out what he wants and trying to get on with my life in the meantime.
