This is an update and question. My WAS and I filed for divorce this summer and she moved to another city to be by her family. I have done a good job of GAL and we occasionally exchange friendly texts or calls for various reasons but never just to catch up. I have made it a point to rarely initiate any of the conversations and have been friendly when she contacts me. I had hoped she would consider reconciliation or at least agree to see a counselor together but I have not brought this up with her since we filed. I would like to know what other people feel about my absence strategy long-term or if I should at some point reach out and ask her how she feels about us now that some time has passed. My thinking is that she might feel similar to me but find it awkward to bring it up since we no longer see each other and rarely communicate. It seems like this is something I should do at some point for my own closure if she has not plans to reconsider, but I also feel that there is probably an ideal amount of time to wait before doing so. I appreciate any perspectives on my sitch.
