13 years and two small children

[DonH]

Yes she likely doesn't feel much for you right now but the problem is that's exactly what happens when anyone starts loving someone else has sex with them and then interacts very little with her H. Of course you can't tell her this! She still longs for OM. If he does stay away and OM2 doesn't appear then you may have a chance again if that happens spending time together is the best way for her to build back feelings - and they can come back, she just doesn't believe that.

So what do you do? I think you are already doing well. If you really have no plans and she asks to watch a movie MWD and DBing say to do that. Just dont put any expectations on this. Be light, upbeat and fun. This is a chance to show her what she'll be missing and for those feelings to return. Be the guy she fell in love with. A fun night with zero pressure or expectation may get her to think, hmmmm that was fun and I don't feel pressure, I'd like todo that again. If that happens enough it will help. Now if you do - no R talk no talk about the house or OM. Don't be her GF. If she goes there say "I thought we were just watching a movie" don't let her cry on your shoulder. This should simply be a fun date - that's it.