I wasn't intending on spying. Our security camera sends notifications anytime there is activity. I saw a babysitter show up so naturally I got curious.
I understand it wasnt your intent. But within minutes of her getting home, you talk to her about OM....makes it pretty clear that you must have been watching....something. It's not like you heard from the grapevine or whatever. My point is less about that and more about collecting info/intel and then confronting once you have the story. Now, all you can do is 'take her word for it' and I wouldnt want to put myself in that position where I am trusting someone who has shown repeatedly to be untrustworthy.
One other point on this. You should drop anything that trips you up. We often tell newbies to get off of social media. "I wasn't snooping on her page, but someone commented on her update and it showed up in my feed!" LBSs use these kinds of things for "excuses" for stumbling across information about their WAS.
So when was the last time you had a security issue? Would it be a real problem to block the security cam notifications or shut it down completely?
Guess what I had security cams too. My W said it made her feel like I was watching her. And admittedly I did use them for that. One of the things I did was take them down. It showed her I was letting go.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
