I wasn't intending on spying. Our security camera sends notifications anytime there is activity. I saw a babysitter show up so naturally I got curious.
I understand it wasnt your intent. But within minutes of her getting home, you talk to her about OM....makes it pretty clear that you must have been watching....something. It's not like you heard from the grapevine or whatever. My point is less about that and more about collecting info/intel and then confronting once you have the story. Now, all you can do is 'take her word for it' and I wouldnt want to put myself in that position where I am trusting someone who has shown repeatedly to be untrustworthy.
Originally Posted by Wanted1
to tell him it's over until she decided what's going to happen with our M.
That doesnt sound like 'cutting off communication'. That sounds like a holding pattern. Again, I wouldnt want to be in a position where my WIFE is choosing between me and another guy. How does that build her respect and attraction towards YOU?
Originally Posted by Wanted1
I'm trying to be the lighthouse and keep the road paved smooth back.
A lighthouse doesnt go running off after the boat to bring it to shore. Right now, you seem eager to reassure her that she can take time and do what she needs and youll be right there waiting for her. To me, that is putting pressure on her....like youre going to be checking the clock since you "arent going to wait forever". So give her the space she is looking for. When she's around, be gone doing some kind of GAL. Leave her alone as much as you can. Stop TALKING so much to her. Set some goals for things you want to do and the person you want to be ad ACHIEVE them.
WAITING is such a passive word. What can you DO that is active?
Originally Posted by Wanted1
I'm not willing to be Plan B.
You say that....and yet you also say that you are waiting to see if your wife will choose to be with you. That sounds like Plan B behavior.
Originally Posted by Wanted1
It's going pretty good I'm trying to GAL as much as I can.
Its hard. Every instinct you has pushes you against GAL. Like cutting your trip off. What is on tap for this week?
