Update...W made it to first IC appt and was very happy. Has serious trust issues with opening up to anyone about current and past trauma and this was a big step for her to be comfortable talking to someone.
W has been in touch all day for the past week or so and I am not being chatty but responding as needed to let her know I am listening. She was home last night and we spent some good time together and had fun just being home. The past 5 months she felt home was toxic, didn't want to be there and reasoned that that is why she was always out. Now she wants to be home and has been....she is showing signs of wanting R.
This is the tricky part I guess in how I react and respond to her. I am getting the requests to listen to songs and hearing her pleas of being sorry, etc. I am not discussing A which shows no signs of still ongoing, actually I am not ready to address yet. It sounded like she is discussing a lot of things in IC already including us which I think is too soon as well but if that is in the forefront of her pain then that is a 180 for her.
She is throwing the ILYs around and I am validating but am not ready to return. I am continuing some GAL activities and passive communication throughout the day but what about the detachment, if she is pursuing now what is the best way to approach? Do I tell her that this is will not happen overnight, too much has happened this time, not sure what things will be like, etc etc?
I am hoping IC will give her some guidance in her next steps but I just want to continue doing me but want to make sure it is not looking like I am ignoring her.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
