I think it is VERY important to not confuse this with love. My guess is that this is fulfilling some physical need for her. For example, if she is chatting with some other guy online somewhere but cant or doesnt want to meet up with him, she could be using you for that physical release without that emotional connection. Or maybe shes meeting him occasionally and is "more turned on" and knows you are available. Theres not really any way to know at this point. All I know is that it may not be about her emotional connection with you, so pinning your hopes and expectations of that onto the act is probably going to wind up hurting you later.
THIS^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
pie, women, unlike men, do not equate love and sex. Men, as seen in this quote from you:
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I asked her if she still loved me and she said yes but just can't live with me any longer like this she needed to move forward not move on and that I also needed to move forward and get myself better . I know that my wife loves me she has proven it - we made love the night before she left and we have seen each other 8 time since she left and have made love all 8 times - I know my wife and I think women in general and can't imagine a women that walks out the door would do that if she didn't really love that person.
equate the two. "If she has sex with me she must love me."
I am guessing you haven't read too many relationship books, or done much research on male-female relationships. Women know within the first minute of meeting a man whether or not she'd ever be willing to have sex with him. Are you going to argue that a woman falls in love with a man in the first minute of having met him? I do not think so.
Woman equate love to other things. Is he kind and gentle with me? Does he take care of me? Does he do things for me?
You should read 5 Love Languages. Almost every guy has Physical Touch as either his primary or secondary love language.
Women typically have the other 4 above physical touch. Their LL is typically words of affirmation, or acts of service, or quality time or receiving gifts.
Look up the 5 love languages, and you can take the test.
Anyway, Amoafwl is giving you some great advice here. Most women only fall in love with men they respect. Respect breeds attraction which breeds love for most women. Do you think she respects you right now?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
