Unsure what's next, what to do.....Part II

[Wanted1]

[I'm not willing to be Plan B. I think now that OM is supposedly out of the picture that might help matters.

W,
Just so you are aware, there doesn't have to be an OM for you to be plan B.

Yes, I understand that. I guess the part that keeps me "around" so to speak is that she has told me a couple times, including just two days ago in the joint session, that throughout these past 6 weeks she's never once made up her mind that she's leaving 100%. She's clearly leaning that way but she has never said, point blank, I'm done. She admitted she hasn't had the desire to make things work yet. But, like I said previously, I think that desire might have been influenced by OM and me not giving her time and space.

I think I shared a text message exchange in my thread a couple weeks ago where she said she needs time to think everything over so that a decision isn't made based on high emotions one way or the other. That she needs time to think about what exactly she wants.

I'm willing to give her that. I don't think I've done a good job of giving her time and space up until our last joint session. For a variety of reasons. A few being that we work together, still live under the same roof and obviously have 3 little kids we share and need tending to.

I won't wait around for long, but I guess I feel as though I need to give her at least some time for her to really think about what's next. While I do that, I'm going to prepare for the worst but remain a little hopeful that she decides she wants to try to make our M work.

Now, if wanting to R ends up being her decision, she isn't going to just walk back in to my open arms. She is going to have to prove to me that she's 100% committed to making it work. And that isn't going to happen by just her saying she is. She needs to prove that through consistent action.