(long aside) -- I had a mate (gourd) from when I lived down there, but it has disappeared over the years.
It's interesting, I just gave up coffee. For many years I lived in some of the biggest coffee countries of the world (Italy, Argentina, Colombia) and I never touched it, but over the past 6 years I started relying on it. I drank 2-3 cups a day, and was feeling like I needed it to wake up. But I have also had a lot of problems with gastritis, so I gave up the coffee cold turkey a few weeks ago. I have been drinking a lot of tea, both black and herbal, but mate sounds appealing as well. It might be a bit expensive up here as a daily habit.
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Thanks Joseph,
For sure, the pain has already lessened ten-fold. In fact, I am generally feeling very positive about life, more so than even pre-BD when I was depressed.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019