Steve is more confident than I would be that there is someone else. BUT...it clearly isnt 'gross' to her as she is still sleeping with you fairly regularly.
Yeah the gross comment leaped off the screen at me. You know, the old "Me thinks the lady doth protest too much" Shakespeare thing.
When I initiated BD in my sitch, I had a message exchange between my W and her EA OM. She was telling him how she felt she needed to step away from him because his GF wouldn't appreciate the things they'd discussed, and the pictures she shared. (Note, the talk about "stepping away" is my W's classic manipulation, reverse-psychology method of getting someone to say "no no, I want you!", so no one should read too much into that.)
When I confronted her and she immediately said "I don't want to be married anymore", I eventually got back to the topic of OM (I really think looking back that hitting me over the head with the "I want a D" thing was to divert attention away from her A.), and when I did I mentioned the thing about pictures. She claimed they had only exchanged face pictures. I wasn't buying it, so I said, "It sure sounds like the the picture more erotic than that. At least nudes." Her response was immediate and emphatic "Ewwwww, no!"
4 weeks later I discovered the nudes she had sent to him.
To me, one of the ways someone caught responds is a key indicator. If pie's wife had simply said "no, there is no one else, I'm just unhappy and want out", then I would think it less likely there was someone else. But her saying "Gross!" suggests to me a level of diversion. As if it is out of the question, why even suggest it?! See the Shakespeare line above.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
