They have had no contact with my W except to let her know that they love her, support her, and if she needs anything let them know.
Is this how they really feel or is it BS? If they don't support this decision then why pretend? This is what is considered fuching CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR ACTIONS!!!! You lose the love and support from your in-laws.
Before I even knew what validation was I had told my EX in the past "you shouldn't feel that way" about certain things. This was one of her reasons to D. Now my mother hasn't spoken to my EX in two years and ironically my EX says to me "she should feel that way about her".
As for the event, if it is not a big deal for you I wouldn't go. You want her getting out of dodge next week with as little fireworks as possible. That is when the true detaching starts kicking in.
My parents never supported my W decision, but they supported her because they loved her. Day 1 Post-BD that was how they felt and what was expressed to W. They don't feel that way anymore, but she doesn't know because the don't talk. I found out my sister did some snooping right after BD and suspected an EA/PA and told my folks so that didn't sit well. They also see what's going on with the kids and hear what the kids tell them. To say they are pretty disappointed in W would be an understatement.
I'm going to pass on the event and spend the evening with the kids.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
