Does your W's view have ANY validity? Have you ever been violent or threatened violence with the kids or her? Shown any proclivity to violence? Raised your voice?
Because if you have, you are blowing sunshine up our butts, and it's no wonder she's behaving the way she is. Think about it from her perspective.
Think about that. Think about that really hard. Don't just blow this question off with a snort and "of course not!"
She might be an evil bitch, but she might have a point, and if she does, that's where you should start showing her you've changed. Of course, you would actually have to change.....
Used violence against the kids absolutely not, never. She has actually hit or slapped my son on occasions though.
Used violence against her, no as I said I was arrested for grabbing her during an argument and released without charge. It was a over reaction on her part, she basically called the police 4 hours after the said incident. Raised my voice yes of course I have. Our relationship was quite toxic, she often assaulted me over the years and had a foul temper. But we have had our fair share of screaming matches but it was never a physically abusive relationship from my side.
