Devastated

[Jim1234]

It stinks, and we're all there with you, in one way or another.

Honestly, in a lot of ways, you seem to be much better off than most of us on this forum. She still loves you, and you understand a lot of your issues. She hasn't seen a lawyer. She's talking to you. Ready2Change is right. Let her go. You need to focus on you, and make positive changes, but DO THEM FOR YOU, NOT TO GET YOUR WIFE BACK. She is gone. She might come back, but these changes need to make you a better person, and as a side benefit, make you become someone she WANTS to get back together with.

In some ways, you're worse off. You are a mess. You have addiction problems. Get help with that. Seriously, if you were a woman, would you want to be with you?

Show her through you actions that you are taking charge of your life and getting it straightened out. It doesn't matter that she doesn't live with you; she'll know.