Not snooping is to protect you emotionally. If you are strong enough to control your reactions, then Intel always helps. I know PuppyDogTails was very good at gathering intel and not revealing his sources. He was the affair busting expert.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
