My question is should I be encouraging the contact (without expectations) or should I protect myself and set clearer boundaries. A part of me thinks that I would be setting boundaries purely to 'shock him' into seeing what he is giving up.
I struggle with this too. I still don't know why he would want to do the big Halloween thing with me last night. We DID have fun, and were the neighborhood hit, as usual. Had nice chit chat before and after. I'm trying not to look more into it than he just still finds it fun to do, with or without me. Thanksgiving is coming up. Do I specifically invite, or let him ask about it? Maybe I just need to BE, and not overthink and plan anything. I guess I will know a lot more towards the end of the month when he determines if he will stay out of the house or come back. Still actively GAL though, so I'm content for the time being. Every time I see him though, it takes a few days to stop obsessing about what he's thinking and doing every day.
