Never reveal sources of Intel. Never reveal too much. Never reveal everything.
This is more powerful:
H"W, when was the last time you spoke with OM?" W"Three weeks ago." H"We both know you are lying right now. Please tell me the truth."
See the difference?
Just be very aware that most affairs will keep going deeper.
I wish you well during this.
Oh, I'm fully aware. Not sure if I'll ever know whether or not its continuing. I'm trying to not snoop. I also feel like maybe karma might start rearing it's ugly head and I'll stumble upon it somehow.
Even if I don't, I guess I'm going to 'act as if' it isn't continuing for my own sanity. It will help me in detaching and not feel the need to confront her about him or fall into sharing my thoughts and feelings anymore. I now know that's been the my biggest mistakes thus far.
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19