My husband and I have been married for 38 years. During that time we've had two children, gone to college, and are within 10 years of paying off all debt. This summer, my husband started an emotional affair with a woman half his age, an affair which is ongoing. He says that they are just friends, but they made out this summer, and the woman took pictures, which were sent to my home. Later in the summer, he arranged to have her fly to our state, and rented a single hotel room for the two of them--only I found out, and the plan was scuttled. They still talk via text nearly all day long (22,000 texts that I knew of last) and spend at least an hour on the phone every night.
My husband started this affair when he felt desperate after I ignored him and stayed behind my computer for months (accounts differ, but I was working on a PhD at the time). We got in a terrible pattern because of it: he got mad, followed by me retreating even more. This July (around the time of the pictures) he told me that he had lost feeling for me and felt that our marriage would likely not survive. He was massively angry and said some terrible things, "our marriage ended on the day I met her" --occasionally wanting to work on the marriage, but mostly not.
He has now asked for a divorce, and is serious. Says that he doesn't feel that he has much time left, and wants to spend it well. He has agreed to wait until the spring to make a decision. I am devastated, and love him very much. So--Last Resort is where I am. Who here has tried it, or knows of someone who has? What did you/they do and what were the results? Please help! I can't afford the counselling prices here--although I am sure that it is well worth it--and this is my last chance. I don't actually know how to combine threads, but this is a continuation of my newcomer thread. Thanks for your help--without this community I would really be a mess!
