I guess this is piecing

[SteveLW]

Yes Did, that voluntary support has kept you both attached to each other, in different ways. I get that she will be entitled to alimony. However, the difference is that if you leave the Ding to her, that she has to go through the process and do the dirty work in order to get the alimony, I think you'd see a different side of her. The voluntary support gives her the luxury of post D benefits without the pain and effort of having to go through the D. This has been my point all along.

Yes she will be entitled to alimony, but make her work for it.