The dating and sex bother me a lot. If I was more centered it wouldn't, but it does.
When she moves out you will become more centered. I promise you!
Originally Posted by Twofeet
W doesn't know it as I don't show it. I have the attitude and mentality that I am best she will ever have, no guy is going to top me.
That is the exact mentality you need to have! She will figure it out, the only question will it be too late?
Originally Posted by Twofeet
Her identity became apart of me, it wasn't just me and her it was we, but probably we at an unhealthy level.
Same thing happened to my EX and I, we did everything together. Other couples were jealous of all the things we did together and as a family. Looking back now, maybe it was too much. She claims at some point she lost her identity.
Originally Posted by Twofeet
I am too possessive over something and someone that is not mine to possess.
This must change. As Corey Wayne always says "you should love in a way that the other person feels free". I think the number 1 thing I learned through all this was the only person I can control is myself.
Originally Posted by Twofeet
I think you mentioned in another thread on the post-D forum you read Corey Wayne's book. I bought it a couple weeks ago because I saw some YouTube vids of him. While I feel like he is too casual in his attitude ie his 3Hs, he does have a good mindset about healthy relationships. His book has been helping me readjust my thinking.
In my opinion it is a must read for any man alive. Even if you don't agree with everything, what he teaches works.
Originally Posted by Twofeet
Thanks for all your advice. I really appreciate it.
It's my pleasure. I like how you handle yourself. You will get through this and thrive one way or another.
