13 years and two small children

[SteveLW]

Believe nothing she says, and only half of what she does. Now that you have grown back your balls and started to assert yourself, be prepared for her to go into stealth mode. Where before she was open and blatant because you were letting her get away with it, now she will probably be more discrete, and start hiding her rendezvouses.

At this point, most LBS ask "when will I know she really has changed and given up the OM". The answer is you will know when her behavior is consistent (no unexplained absences, etc) for a long period of time. Think months, or even a year or more.

Until then it is nothing more than lies and manipulations. So don't be ready to give in too quickly to "changes" she says she is making.