Wife is not who I married ... Pt6 pls help!

[LoneWlf]

RR- Rose- many thanks for your valued input- we may differ opinion at times but we are similar in our love and respect for one another.

One of the Bibles teachings is that we must love Christ more than wife, children, parents, siblings, etc.... (Some do not like the KJV of this passage because it is worded "Anyone that cometh to me and hate not mother and father...etc). But the point is that Christ is first in our lives above everyone else. Non-Christians may not understand that because they think in terms of the here and now, not the next life. Principles are of the utmost importance, no matter what those principles cost us. I admire this about you LW above all else (and there is plenty to be admired!).

Steve thank you - I feel you speak of great wisdom and are willing to share your many blessings. You are greatly admired by myself and all that come here. You my friend are a beacon of God's light.

Having done a lot of thinking -my feeling is that loosing God is the primary reason marriages fail today . In today' s world the simple focus is one self. What about me? What about my happiness? Do what makes you happy .. I am the victim ...I need to only worry about me. The concept of instant gratification - How can I make me more happier? Who is to blame for my misery? In our attempt to reach for happiness and to get from point A to point B in the quickest amount(instant gratification) of time we must point blame on the people or the situation surrounding us.

What we should be doing instead of looking to be happy is to look to be holy. To be more Christ like. If we focus on God and his teachings than we should not fail. If we are constantly chasing happiness. A bigger home, a new, car a better spouse. The riches of the world can make life easier- but you are chasing false idols. If your focus is on God - then as God commanded - you are to be an apostle - a messenger of God and you are to Love unconditionally. To be slow to anger and quick to extend graces. To serve with an open heart- In His own words -Love one another as I have loved you. Look at the beatitudes and how beautiful a message it conveys. Using this as a compass to navigate through life's difficult journey can only give you happiness.

I am not here to present a holier than thou perspective- this is what I choose to believe and respect others views. The bible can be interpreted many ways. It is up to us to live by our code of morals ethics and beliefs.

With love and prayers to you all- Blessings!