Geez... this is tough. Cheeseless tunnels... it seems there are many. I stand in front of them all of the time. Some I go down - usually when I haven’t had the time to run things by the people on this board...lol. Pay attention to that rational side of you. That’s usually the side that knows what to do. No point in wondering and no point in asking because they can always lie about things. With all of the time spent with kids, etc... you are right, not much time for OW. That will make her mad soon enough and then the pressure will start. Be the lighthouse. That is something she will not be nor could she be. She is not his wife...she’s just a distraction from himself.
Your H sounds like he is being pretty nice and accommodating. Offering to spend time with your D8 so you can get some work done? Positive signs, I think. Just keep doing what you are doing. I think you are doing great. Your description of it being a dull ache now resonated with me. I feel the same way. Looking forward to the day that the ache is gone altogether. (((HUGS)))
