So I followed your guys advice, and frankly I am tired of acting like a doormat. I came to the realization today, that I have become someone completely else during this process, someone who is definitely not me, and that is unacceptable.
I told her today, that she ruined the family, and therefore the consequences were as follows:
1. From here on out, I would be taking the bedroom and she can sleep on a mattress in our youngest kids bedroom. (She accepted with no protest).
2. I told her that she could take all her things from the master bathroom and move them into the guest bathroom (she accepted with no protest)
3. I told her that our joint account from here on out was only going to be covering the expenses to the house (yea I have been postponing this, thinking it was going to help me, if I kept supporting her financially aswell). All the expenses from the joint account that were not going to house bills, are now divided between us on our own personal accounts. She became real aggravated when I told her, that i weren't going to co-finance her new car anymore, and that she would have to pay that her self, since she wants to take the car + the debt when the house sells, and then drive off. I told her, there is no logically reason to why I would keep on paying half the cost for a car im not going to use, nor get anything out of when she decides to sell it at some point. She didn't agree but in the end said "fine - but she was clearly angry".
I don't know if I threw too much at her at once, I don't know if I [censored] up completely by doing this, but im confused, and needed to set some boundaries for once i felt.
Did I screw up?
BD: Wife says "its over" 11th august 2018. EA: June 2018 PA: August 2018 - ongoing Status: Taking turns 7 days a week to be in the house w. kids WW: no regrets, seems happy with leaving.
