Affair discovered 3

[STH17]

We're living 1.5-2 hours apart depending on traffic and 100 miles. So for me to do all the driving is 6 to 8 hours and 400 miles of driving a week so I can spend less than 72 hours with my son (F night thru M morning). I can't just drive down on a weeknight to take son out to dinner in the middle of the week. The school is less than two miles and 4 minutes from W's parents' house. I don't see a comparable burden there.

I would be okay with letting W have a few hours on a weekend to do something with son, but not an entire weekend since that is the only time I can see son in person now. A daycare closer to both of us would have been my preferred choice too, but since son has already started this school I don't want to take him out and put him somewhere else that might be just as short-lived.

Under guidance of my IC, I emailed W last night asking to meet in person to discuss this further, also saying I'm open to having a third party there to help us talk it through. W replied this morning saying she can't do that, as it would be bad for her mental health to negotiate in person. Sigh. Just emails or lawyers at this point I guess. Makes me wonder if she'd even be willing to meet with a divorce mediator anymore.

The way I see it now, W is offering me nothing, but asking me for more time with son for herself. So if I want something from her (for her to drive more), I can agree to let her have a few hours with son occasionally on weekends.