I'd have fought the guy right then and there if I was your friend. If I was you and the guy tried insulting my friend I'd have beat him. I've always stood up harder for my friends than myself and I can't stand people like the OM on your friend's sitch.
My friend, coincident with his marital ordeal, got religion. Born-again. And, like, for real. He lives every single component of it, including turning the other cheek. He told me part of him really wanted to clock the guy (which would have been a bad move-- other guy is total bada$$ who actually saved my friend's life one time by single-handedly fighting off a group of four gangbangers who were beating my friend), but he restrained, found forgiveness in his heart, etc.
Now, I am a man of strong faith, myself, but that is one area where i could not be so pious/restrained. It may not be strictly "right", but i will fight for my own. Probably an area where my faith needs more work. In my own case, I almost came to blows with OM, and he was actually trying to avoid me, not taunting me.
Yeah, i just don't see how it could happen absent total reconcilliation between my friend and this other dude and his XW. And even then it would be weird/awkward.
Ah, well, maybe it is the last little bastion of waywardness with my W, and the hardest to let go of because of her longstanding relationship with her friend. But maybe this too will pass, eventually. It probably already would have prior to the internet age with her being 1000 miles away.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
In my own case, I almost came to blows with OM, and he was actually trying to avoid me, not taunting me.
