she wants out right? Well, then not sleeping in that bed, in that bedroom, in that house are all a consequence of that choice. Let her deal with the consequence of her choice.
I'd say your W is welcome to go to gymnastics whether you want her to or not, right? It's her kids there right? So that would be ok to let her tag along with you to things you are doing. But don't plan anything around her.
Don't tell W not to pack your lunch, just pack your own if you'd rather her not do it for you. Do it the night before or something like that. Don't create conflict, just do your thing. I'd get rid of the letter. If you're writing her love letters while she's having an affair that just screams WEAK!!!! Get rid of it unless you like her running roughshod over you.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
