Sandi's Reflections - Part 2

[Hurt213]

Hi Sandi. Thank you so much for your lengthy and very informative perspective on a very tough situation.

Is there any chance, that you might be able to look at my stitch and give your perspective on the matter? I have already been given some very helpful advice, but I am still struggling to find out wether I am dealing with a WAW or a WW. Furthermore I do not know, wether to take the "aggressive path" where I set my foot down and do not pay attention to her needs and basically disconnect myself from her by not letting her know anything about me and my life (hard when we live together), throw her out of the bedroom (we take turns to sleep in another room), move on without being nice and all that..

Ori f it is a WAW where I treat her with respect, love and try to show her, that I am indeed capable of changing, and already did, when I "woke up" the day she left me... I guess you can't call it being in an affair anymore when she left me, however she is doing it openly (Going to OMs place several times a week, sleeping over, or just going for a couple of hours and then returning home), while we are still trying to sell the house and living under the same roof. She is pushing for the house to sell, and she has mentioned that she just want a year to pass some way magical, so this is all in the past and she has moved on with her life... This is stressing her because of the kids and all, but thats basically it...

Im so confused as to how to navigate in this, even though I have read a lot of information that is provided from these forums / the site.



link to my thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2818587&page=1

Thank you so much in advance, and thanks for all the great info you have written here.

H