Everyone has moments where they slip up. I don’t think last night is a big deal. You did the right thing, getting back on track.
As for the text exchange, honestly I can see my husband and I having that exchange.
For me, this would mean I was slipping on one of my 180s, which is to not be so prickly or quick to be offended.
What are the 180s you are working on?
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16