EZ, if you have to question yourself whether or not you should make a move, you should not. Work the process. If W is still moving forward then that should be a sign that she intends on getting the D done.
My attitude is...YDGAF. It's all about you and S. W wants in, she can get in.
As far as the trust issue goes, it depends on your feelings. I personally would be extremely guarded. Come to the board and ask us first before you make a move. Good 2x4's have helped and will help you in dealing this this.
Finally, ask yourself:
Is it worth risking yourself getting hurt on a maybe/maybe not?
