Since my last post - we ended up not talking at all for 5 weeks! Even on our dd13th birthday. She wanted to go for a family meal with a friend - he came and was happy for me to pay! He didn’t get her a present and didn’t ask what I had bought her.
Then one weekend I was due to work away and my car wouldn’t start. He has the jump leads etc... so I sent him a message to see if he could help. He came home and immediately sorted the car and gave me a little battery pack he has in his car for if it happened again. I thanked him and since then we are talking.
If I ask him to do anything he is straight away doing it - eg our carpet on stairs was dangerous and I started to pull it up. He came home and took over and did it all. He has now spent days sanding the stairs down and discussing our plans with it.
He continues to sleep downstairs and have no physical contact. But he has been at home for the last few weeks without disappearing for night/s. Eating as a family for the most part. Coming up is Remembrance Day and this is always a difficult time for him due to his military service. I wish he would get help but so far he hasn’t. It amazes me how he responds when I ask him to do practical tasks - he clearly likes being needed.
I am GAL as much as I can with yoga, exercise, taking kids out in their half term break, seeing friends, reading etc....I think we have slipped back into friends zone....
M: 17 T:17 Me:42 H:48 BD 23/12/2017 H says ‘I don’t want to be married’ D 17 D 15, D 13, S 10, S 10
