Wife sent email regarding exchange of vehicles as I have been driving hers and vise versa. I have held firm in my expectations that she needs to return my vehicle which is much nicer. She has relinquished until now but is trying to change up our agreement last minute.
She continues to get shoddy guidance from her attorney after her long term strategy blew up in her face....which was full custody of S. I now fear her attorney is just racking up WAW legal fees to try and save face. In typical WAW fashion, she is kicking and screaming now that she’s not getting her way. Ironically she starts to cc her attorney as to “tattle”...as things escalate and I hold firm on our agreed arrangements.
One of the things that W continues to harp is getting access into our marital house. I have agreed to let her come over in which I intend to gather the items she is wanting. She has made a big deal that she wants to go around the house herself. This wouldn’t be an issue, but I have confirmed that W has had contact with a PI and my trust is shattered as to what she may try and plant, etc. I may be crazy thinking this....but I have to go with what I know and want to protect myself. I have nothing to hide, but it’s been a huge rub on her for the last 3 months she hasn’t been able to get into the house and I’ve cut off any access to our shared accounts (cable, internet, Alexa) that I’ve heard could be hacked into to serve as listening devices.
So now I have to meet up with W tomorrow in what will be the first time in 5 months where S won’t be present.
I’d like to get the boards feedback on how I should approach? I know we each have a lot of pent up anger and animosity towards each other. Some of her actions and words are straight up evil, but I know if she is in MLC I can’t take them at face value. I know I need to treat her as a cashier....but also know we have to come to a space where we can Co parent together.
Another issue that was brought up over weekend when I met up with old friend who’s wife is friends with my W, he mentioned that he wouldn’t be surprised if W were having other thoughts on D. I tried not to let that effect me....but I’m human and the thought that MR could have a heartbeat at this point baffles me. I don’t know if I would or could as a lot of damage has been done. Could I ever trust W again?
Any guidance is appreciated.
I’m past the point of temp checking...but is this an opportunity for W to connect? I have no expectations at all now and have completely given it to god....but also don’t want a wasted opportunity to pass me by. My personal development has grown so much....and I believe I’m at a time where maybe a risk is worth taking?
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
